the mister and i shared our anniversary yesterday of 7 years. 7 years seems like so little time to so many people, but i’ll say it as my mom did last night “7 years. whew! doesn’t seem like that long!” i was so thankful to hear those words. it seems as though we have been together forever, and at the same time, i can’t wait to see what comes our way for the rest of our life!
ben and i have a lot of amazing conversations. some are about dumb and dumber or other silly things, and some are about life, and why we do what we do. we are destined to be selfish people. i don’t know anyone who is totally unselfish. i know a lot of people that come close, but we realized at dinner last night that our selfishness or unselfishness is all part of being married. that’s what love is. love is not conditional. we can’t ask our spouse to love us only a certain way. sometimes it’s good for us to tell them what we like or need, but we have to know that that is not always the way that our spouse will choose to show us love.
and we love them through that.
i’m no expert on marriage, but one thing i’m very thankful for is the way my discipleship has grown since meeting ben. ben could tell me something, and i would believe it. if someone else told me something, i’d take it or leave it, or have to figure it out on my own. marriage is a picture of what Christ has done for us. we daily die to ourselves in marriage. it might not be huge, but it does have to happen on both sides of a marriage. Christ died for us on the cross. the least i could do is die to myself in marriage, or any other relationship that comes my way. scripture says “7 Dear friends, let us love one another, for love comes from God. Everyone who loves has been born of God and knows God.8 Whoever does not love does not know God, because God is love.” (1 john 4:7-8)
when i think about love like this, it makes me want to love more.
i love you, ben williams. here’s to the rest of our life together.